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Make Simple Decisions Quickly and Easily
By
A.Thompson
A
Don Juan makes simple decisions quickly and easily.
You
never stutter, ponder over, or invest a good deal of
mental energy in over-analyzing most of the relatively
mundane decisions which must be made in romantic situations.
When
you ask a girl out, you have a plan and make a specific
recommendation. No, "What do you want to do? I
don't know what do you want to do?" You lead.
All she has to do is agree. If she doesn't agree with
a particular proposal, then you lead her towards a
different proposal.
A
dinner date? You open the car door for her. You park
in the first open spot you see. You approach the hostess
requesting, "Table for two in the non-smoking
area." Or if there's no hostess, you quickly survey
the scene, pick out a table and head for it. (You may
ask your date, "Is this table okay with you?" Nothing
wrong with being polite.) You take the menu, peruse
it briefly for a few minutes, then put it down and
order. Once you're both finished eating, you pick the
check up and pay it.
No
matter what kind of date you go on, whether it's a
dinner date in a restaurant, a party at a friend's
house, or a day at the park, there are dozens of simple
little decisions which must be made. As the man, it's
your job to orchestrate the date, to take charge, to
make things as easy and enjoyable as possible for the
lady.
Everything
should flow smoothly. In fact, she's somewhat judging
you based upon how smoothly the date does "flow." If
it flows, she'll conclude that the date's going well,
that there's a certain chemistry between the two of
you, and she will be much more likely to want to see
you again.
If
the date doesn't flow, i.e. lots of awkward pauses
while you fret over these minor decisions, she'll begin
to doubt that you are, in fact, the kind of man she's
looking for. She'll begin to doubt the "chemistry."
In
addition to increasing your initial dating success
by increasing flow, you need to continue to make these
simple little decisions - quickly and easily - even
after you start seeing someone on a regular basis.
Why? Because making these kinds of little decisions
quickly and easily is an EASY WAY for you to garner
respect.
Remember,
RESPECT is one of the most important elements of a
romantic relationship. If she doesn't respect you,
she will never love you... or even lust after you.
Garnering respect from the ladies is crucial to your
romantic success.
There
are lots of little ways for you to garner respect (the
subject of a future article). One of the easiest is
to handle these decision points with ease. It's also
one of the ways that guys very frequently screw up...
and they don't even realize it.
Imagine
arriving at that same restaurant with your date.
You
drive round and round looking for the best spot.
There's
no hostess so you and her stand there and try to decide
where you should sit. After a couple minutes, she picks
a table and you two head for it.
The
waiter comes over and asks what you'd like to drink.
You think for a second, ask what they have, then after
he runs down the list, you finally pick something.
When
he comes back to take your order, you're still trying
to decide what you want, still studying the menu. Your
date's ready to order. You ask for more time.
When
the check comes, you let it sit there for an eternity
while trying to decide whether you should pay it, or
she should pay half, or whatever.
And
so it goes... on and on like this for the entire night.
You faltering on simple little decisions... inhibiting
flow and chemistry... and losing more and more respect
in your date's eyes.
What
to do? Where to park? What to order? These are all
examples of "decision points" which occur
quite frequently in romantic situations... and these
decision points present you with the opportunity to
garner respect from your lady... or to project weakness.
Of
course, we're not talking about taking a dictatorial
approach to relationships. If she wants to do something
else, or sit someplace else, or pay for dinner... fine.
These little things shouldn't really matter to you.
After all, you've got your eye on the big picture --
having fun.
Remember...
indecisiveness in a man is a highly undesirable trait,
and will turn a woman off faster than a moldy pair
of Scooby Do boxer shorts.
And
when she doesn't kiss you goodnight, begins screening
your calls, and never goes out with you on that second
date... you'll have no one to blame but yourself.
How
to Intrigue Women
By
A.Thompson
One
of the keys to attracting and keeping a woman is to
intrigue her; that is, to tap into her cute little
brain and get her thinking about, wondering about,
and maybe even daydreaming about... YOU.
And
one of the simplest and most effective ways to do this
is to vary your presentation. In other words, vary
how you present yourself so that she never quite knows
what to expect.
She
can and probably will have a general idea of what to
expect, or even be pretty certain of what to expect...
but she should never know exactly, for a fact, what
to expect.
You
should weld it into your mind, with a blowtorch, that
women (at least young, childless women) are drawn towards
unpredictability in men. They love not knowing exactly
what's going to happen from moment to moment. They
love not knowing exactly what you'll do or say next.
They love surprises, and they love the excitement (and
sometimes even the anxiety) generated by the unknown.
In
a woman's mind, a predictable man is a dull man, a
boring man, a passionless man, and, at best, a FRIEND.
" Heck" she
thinks, "if I want to be bored, I can sit home
alone and watch TV... or read a book... or surf the
net. No, I want a man who adds excitement to my hum-drum
life."
Remember,
a woman would rather be just about anything (even mad,
sad, or anxious) than bored.
So
what you want to do, what you need to do, is vary your
personality, just a little, every once in a while,
in order to keep her intrigued, to keep her wondering,
to keep her thinking about and trying to figure out...
you.
Yes,
of course, you have and should have a "base" persona
that you like, that you're proud of, and that you enjoy "being." You
shouldn't be trying to become a completely different
person every time you see her. She'll just think you're
a nut.
Just
vary certain things... a little bit... every once in
a while. And you'll keep her interested.
In
this particular article we're talking about varying
your presentation, which is perhaps the easiest way
to add this much coveted aura of unpredictability and
intrigue to your persona.
How
do you look... usually?
How
do you dress... usually?
How
do you smell... usually?
How
you look, dress, and smell are aspects of your presentation
and thus aspects of your personality. And they're also
aspects that are easy to manipulate, easy to change,
easy to vary.
We're
not saying that you NEED to change these things --
you may already have the finest clothes, the most expensive
haircut, and the coolest cologne money can buy. We're
just saying that, if you want to be the man of her
dreams, you need to mix things up a bit, so you don't
fall into the predictability trap.
So
how do you dress? Whether you wear Armani suits or
tee-shirts and jeans doesn't really matter... as long
as you don't wear them all the time. You can have a "look" that
you like. And that's fine. But your lady should never
be able to predict what you'll "always be wearing."
You
should make sure she sees you in a large variety of
outfits. Sometimes you have on a really nice suit and
you're dressed to kill. Sometimes jeans and a tee-shirt.
Sometimes khakis with a collared shirt. And sometimes
sweatpants and a old flannel shirt.
Sometimes
you've got on the nicest dress shoes, and sometimes
old, disgusting tennis shoes. Sometimes your clothes
are normal, you fit in, and don't attract much attention.
And sometimes you deliberately stand out, with bright
colors and flashy designs. Sometimes boxers, sometimes
briefs, sometimes boxer-briefs, and sometimes none
of the above (hey).
The
point is that she should never be able to DEFINITELY
predict what you will be wearing. You may dress the
same most of the time, and hopefully you dress very
well, but frequently you look completely different,
maybe even bad... maybe even embarrassingly bad.
Variety.
Remember, it's the spice of life.
How
bout the way you smell. Do you wear the same cologne
all the time? Even if it's her favorite cologne, and
all she ever does is tell you how good you smell and
rub up against you, don't fall into the trap of wearing
the same cologne all the time.
Remember
variety.
I
mean, even if pizza is your lady's most favoritest
food in the whole world, do you really think she wants
to eat it 3 times a day, everyday?
I
don't think so.
What
I personally like to do is rotate about 5 different
colognes, at about 2 dates (or get togethers) each.
The first couple times you see her, you might wear
Eternity. The next couple times you might wear Drakkar.
The next couple Cool Water. Then Romance. Etc.
After
you've gone through 5 colognes or so, then you can
start back over again, or vary them (maybe Eternity
one date, Romance the next 3 dates, then Drakkar for
one date, then whatever). Remember variety. She'll
never know exactly how you'll be smelling... and she'll
love it.
Another
side benefit of varying your cologne - since smells,
emotions, and memories are interrelated and processed
in a similar area of the brain, every time in the future
she smells one of the 5 or so that you rotate, she'll
start thinking about you, remembering you, and wondering
what you're doing.
And
you do want to be the man she can never forget, right?
Of
course, you should apply this "variety" principle
to every other facet of your presentation. For example,
do you wear contacts? You should let her see you with
your glasses on. How bout colored contacts to change
the color of your eyes, just once in a while?
Are you always clean-shaven? Then you should occasionally go a few days
without shaving... and make sure she sees you. And this is an especially
good tip for those "nice guys" who may occasionally come off
as being a little weak. That 3-day stubble can make you look a little
more "manly" and strong. But just once in a while, because
most women prefer a guy who's clean-shaven with baby-soft skin.
How's
your hair? Do you keep it looking exactly the same
all the time? Try varying it a little. Let her see
you with your hair "out of place" for once.
Or maybe try a new style. How bout going "blond" for
a couple weeks? Or letting your hair get a little too
long before heading to the barber, so that you actually
look different when he's through with you.
You
get the idea.
Varying
your presentation is easy. And it's an easy way to
keep her interested.
Remember,
the more variety you can incorporate into your personality,
the more interesting you'll seem, the more exciting
you'll seem, and the more she'll want to be with you.
Of
course, you should be varying other aspects of your
personality as well. Especially important is how you
choose to spend your time -- in other words the things
you like to DO.
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